Recently I was prompted to go back and look for resources that would help me do an extended study on the subject of "Love." We all think we know what love is, right? It's that gooey, warm feeling you get when you meet someone you think is your "soul" mate and then you start to plan your life together.
The infatuation that comes with that first meeting, that "love at first sight" encounter, is nothing but a passing fancy. The first time you hit a speed bump you realize all is not well and perhaps, just perhaps, your "soul mate" really isn't all that and a bag of chips.
Perhaps you survive the speed bump. Things get back on track and you move forward. So you stop worrying about it and life gets back to "normal," whatever "normal" represents for you and yours. Of course "normal" might not mean "healthy" and there might just be festering yuckiness lurking under the covers of your relationship.
Then you hit a bigger speed bump.
This time it's a whopper. You hit the wall at warp speed and this time things get really bitter, really fast.